Today we’d like to introduce you to Stacey Romero.
Hi Stacey, thanks for joining us today. We’d love for you to start by introducing yourself.
I married an American in 2017. I was still living in England. By 2019 my relationship had turned abusive and I tried to convince myself that moving here with my 2 children would make him love me again. So, when I came over to visit in August 2019 I decided to stay. But it didn’t fix anything and the abuse got progressively worse. He promised all my visa documents had been submitted but then covid hit and I thought everything had been held up because of the shutdown. So, I started making cakes again (I’ve been making cakes for 10 years or so) just for fun at first. But I started getting noticed on Facebook for my talent. By November 2020 I found out that he had not in fact applied for my visa and I was staying in the country illegally. He then used my immigration status against me and threatened that he had called Immigration and I would have my children taken away and I would be deported and lose my children forever. When I got to the point where I realized I either had to leave or I would end up dead, I enlisted the help of some friends who relocated me and my children to a safe place. While we are divorced now and I am going through the visa process, my only source of income has been my cakes. It has helped us to survive in a world where I am unable to get a normal job. It makes sure my children are clothed, fed, and have a roof over our heads. My cakes are everything to me and they’ve been a crutch when I needed to not fold.
Can you talk to us a bit about the challenges and lessons you’ve learned along the way? Looking back would you say it’s been easy or smooth in retrospect?
No. As I said in the last question, my cakes have kept me sane through an abusive relationship, abuse and threats continuing after the relationship, and a tumultuous divorce. They have held me up when I thought I couldn’t give anything else.
Can you tell our readers more about what you do and what you think sets you apart from others?
I am based in Sparta, Michigan. I specialize in making event cakes, for any occasion. I’m proud of myself for keeping my girls and I together through everything, for building a strong business even when my ex-husband tried to destroy it. I’m proud of surviving against the odds.
We’d be interested to hear your thoughts on luck and what role, if any, you feel it’s played for you?
Nothing is luck in the baking business. It’s talent and drive (and my friends) that have got me this far.